Thursday, December 16, 2004

Love is blind

I've told quite a few people what happened.

Almost all of them asked the same questions:

Did you not spot the warning signs?

What on earth possessed you to give her another chance?

For quite a time I began to wonder whether my judgement was totally shot to pieces.

But when I talked about it with a counsellor the answer was so obvious. It had been staring me in the face all along.

I told my counsellor how everyone kept raising those points. I'd barely finished the "what on earth made you to give her another chance" question when my counsellor simply said:

"It's obvious. You loved her."

Oh how blind love can be. How could I have been so taken in by someone even my counsellor was moved to describe as "very nasty"?

Looking back on it, there were lots of things I should have spotted.

Maybe it's naive, but surely you don't go into a relationship questioning whether the other person should be trusted. And you don't expect the person you love to betray you at every turn.

Isn't hindsight a wonderful thing...

Monday, December 13, 2004

This is a story that has to be told...

... for lots of reasons.

It won't change anything.

It won't make anything better. Though it might help me lay the last few ghosts to rest.

But it might make a difference.

I wasn't her first victim. Nor, I fear, am I likely to be her last.

So perhaps by telling my story I might help prevent someone else being made a fool of the way that I was.

This blog is dedicated to all the other people she hurt (there were many) and everyone else who got caught in the cross-fire.

You may not want to hear it. But it's about time somebody told you the truth.

To be continued...